It’s been a long parenting month of trying to back track on some over indulgences I have noticed when it comes to my parenting. Yes, I admit it, somehow my husband and I have spoiled our children. This past month has been many efforts to really address the heart of my children. Why aren’t they obeying me? Why do they feel it is OK to argue with me, or talk back to me?
I don’t want to turn a blind eye to these issues. I want to honor God with my parenting, and having children that disobey, and disrespect me, all in one breath, really has me reflecting on what I have done to cause this in my home, and what I can do to change it.
We’ve definitely made some progress, but I have to say whenever there is a set back my heart grows weary. My expectations tell me that my efforts are hopeless. I have learned to put my worth, my hope, and delight in my expectations when it comes to parenting. If I have a good day then, good. If it’s a bad day then, bad.
Failure to meet my expectations take me away from why God made me a mother in the first place, and why I’m embarking on this journey to direct my children’s hearts towards Him. When I parent to honor God then I am then delighting in Him. But when I’m parenting out of guilt, fear, or the desire to meet a certain expectation then I am delighting in something other than HIM. I’m delighting in acceptance, fun, and the hopes of my own heart.
But when I delight in Him, He will give me those desires. I don’t have to meet the expectations and hopes of my heart, all I need to do is focus on Him and redirect my purpose once again. It’s not always easy, but He really does encourage my heart every day to keep pressing forward and to continue to delight in Him, in every thing, especially in parenting.